Sex and the City Quotes Thursday, Mar 21 2013 


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“When you’re young, your whole life is about the pursuit of fun. Then, you grow up and learn to be cautious. You could break a bone or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes you don’t leap at all because there’s not always someone there to catch you. And in life, there’s no safety net. When did it stop being fun and start being scary?”

~Carrie Bradshaw
Sex and the City

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Gossip Guys: It Turns Out Gossiping Might Be Essential For Bromance Thursday, May 24 2012 


As women, we always get the bad end of the stick when it comes to “gossip”. Men especially will throw their 2 cents in as they casually listen to our conversations with our girlfriends and comment on how catty or gossipy we are. But, in fact the whole roles gave been reversed. See, men are just as bad with the gossip. I can remember divulging a secret to my boyfriend about a friend of ours, which I made him swear to secrecy to not tell anyone about this problem. Well, what do you know I happen to overhear a conversation with my boyfriend and 2 other friends of his discussing the “secret”, I of course was infuriated by his actions. Or how bout when the guys get together and hang out they are talking smack about this girl or this guy, how their dressed or who they’re dating. Really, I guess boys will be boys, they gossip just as much as girls. So I found this article and thought it was interesting.

Gossip Guys: It Turns Out Gossiping Might Be Essential For Bromance

by Gena Kaufman
Glamour May 2012

Do you know any guys that are always like, “Ugh, you and your friends gossip sooo much!” but then he secretly listens and laughs, while simultaneously checking TMZ for the latest celebrity news? I do. All of them.

OK, I’m exaggerating, but the point is: everyone gossips. A new study of gossip and its effects on friendships in men and women, originally published in the journal Sex Roles, has revealed some expected and unexpected information. In unsurprising gender stereotypes that are actually true, women tend to gossip more than men. I’d roll my eyes but I’m such a big gossip that I can’t even pretend to deny I’m not totally guilty of being a gossip girl.

Here are some noteworthy gossip stats:

Women prefer to gossip about the physical appearance of others. Sigh. To be fair, it’s not necessarily all catty.

Women were more likely to be up on “social information gossip then men, i.e., who’s dating whom, who broke up, etc.

Men actually are the bigger gossips when it comes to “achievement related gossip” such as information about grades, salaries, and other status-related information.
Most surprisingly however, was the suggestion that gossip can actually strengthen male friendships. Apparently, gossip has a moderately strong effect on male friendships because amongst men, bonding is linked with more status. When a guy has more knowledge and control of information, he has more status. Women, on the other hand, characterize their friendships by communion or intimacy. Gossip doesn’t strengthen female friendships and might even be a threat to them.

Huh. Who knew that gossip, not crushing beer cans on their own foreheads, might be a bro bonding activity?

Are you a big gossip? Is your guy? Does it affect your friendships?

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The World As We Know It… Thursday, May 24 2012 


As a lot of you may know the world of the Internet has pretty much evolved into a much higher speed, we want it now, product of research and news forums. We use the Internet for everything in our daily lives. If you think about it when was the last time you went a day without being on your computer or smartphone. You have your social media, news outlets, shopping, gaming, videos, iBooks, and ect. I am one you uses the Internet as part of my job and for personal use. Today, in the headline news in New Orleans only daily newspaper it was stated the circulation of the Times Picayune News Paper will only be delivered on Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday. This was very disappointing to read, because I kind of suspected that this would soon happen. See, my boss is old school, he’s 62 years old he reads the paper every morning at the office, he doesn’t use the computer, if he needs a document sent to his office it’s only in a fax no email. If he needs a phone number or address to be looked up, he uses this book called “the phone book”. I guess in a sense I’m the same way, I love reading the daily paper in the morning, reading each section of the paper, doing the crossword puzzle, and it’s not the same as the Internet. It just doesn’t feel like you are getting all the news, even though you are. I feel the same way about magazines and books, my family knows that I love to read, you should see my library of books. I love the feel of a book in my hands, turning the pages, and having my books in my sitting area. That’s why my family wanted to get my a reading device that I can read or purchase books and magazines. I just can’t commit to such a device when the world of publications of books, magazines, and newspapers is at the end of the world as we know it. It’s a sad day but I guess it’s slightly hypocritical of me to be out raged by this as I am writing my blog from my computer. Oh well, I guess this was going to happen sooner or later and I will hold out with my favorites as long as possible.
xoxo

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Fun in the Sun, maybe… Tuesday, May 22 2012 


Well, it’s Memorial Day Weekend coming up, which means its beach time. I love the beach, it’s one of the things that I miss the most living in Florida. I had my car always prepared in case I wanted some relaxation for a few hours on the beach. Now, being that I’m not quite ready for my body to be in a cute bathing suit or have my tan on, I will make the most of it by saying F it. I made my appointment to get my spray tan (trust me my days in the tanning beds are long done) and will then shop for a bathing suit that won’t make me throw up when I see it on myself. This of course is the reason I need the spray tan first, because a tan body looks better than a white fat body.
I am on the right track as far as trying to slim down, gave up the fast food, no sodas, and allowing a skim latte 3 times a week. I’ve been bringing my lunch to work and counting my calories, my clothes are fitting better but, still not noticing a difference on the scale. My doctors appointment yesterday really pissed me off, because as you know I had several surgeries on my back late last year. As of the last few weeks I’ve been experiencing some of the pain and spasms in my back like before, so for my doctor just to give me a few prescriptions of pain pills and suggest working out isn’t an option just of yet. So hello gallon of water I’ll be drinking everyday. And I will be on the beach, I may not be my slim self yet but as long as my boobs look good, have a pretty tan, and a drink in my hand I will be happy! So, forget what everybody is thinking, if they are making me of you part if their thoughts it’s better than not being thought of as well. Tired of the over critical thoughts and opinions a person has to say about another even when they don’t know the obstacles they have had to overcome just to get to the “beach”. Hell, a year ago I was bedridden and miserable in pain, I couldn’t even walk from my car to the front door of my apartment. If this is just a minor setback I’m okay with this but refuse to let this interfere with my life again. I want to celebrate my summer on the beach, have a hell of a 41st birthday party, and to find a way to suck the fat out of me without crying!
For those going out of town this weekend, be careful but have fun in the sun!
xoxo

Life Quote Friday, May 18 2012 


This is what I’m looking for in a man….

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Is Anal Bleaching for You? Monday, May 7 2012 


You know my girlfriends and I always joke around about typical girl talk, you know anal bleaching (if one us check into a location like Walgreens, we will comment “pick up some anal bleaching”) vaginal rejuvenation (kegals really haven’t helped in that department) and of course the all time favorite: men and their penis talk during sex. What the hell it’s sex not a porno, that’s a whole other story (stay tuned…). Anyway I found this interesting article about Anal Bleaching, I didn’t know it was such a big deal as of lately. So here you go learn a little something about all you needed to know about enhancing the equipment downstairs. By the way good luck if you chose any of the items mentioned below.

Is Anal Bleaching for You?

By Ali Wentworth
Marie Claire
July 2011

I was in L.A. recently with a group of friends, devouring pommes frites and red wine, when someone blurted out, “You know, Suzanne had this horrible reaction when she had her anus bleached and had to go to the emergency room.” Yes, I know, I’m speechless, too (mostly because my mother-in-law will read this). I assumed this ritual was for dealing with a parasite. But no, Suzanne was given the treatment as a gift from the movie star who employed her. Me? I’m good with a facial, thank you very much.

Apparently, plenty of women want to go past the now-ordinary breast enhancement and pubic electrolysis to a place few have heretofore dared to go in the name of beauty. Much to my ignorance, bleaching one’s anus (I guess to bring it back to its budlike, puckish pink) has become an obsession far beyond the young jet set and the detail-oriented gay community. These days, anal-bleaching creams can be purchased as easily as cough drops. Let’s see … next Mother’s Day, should I go with the balloon bouquet or a gift certificate for total rectal beauty?

There’s more. Turns out Botox has come a long way since giving you a frozen face and eye sockets that look like they were hollowed out with a melon baller. Now you can Botox your bum. Why exercise if you can simply inject poison into your cellulite? The only downside is your butt won’t be able to really express itself anymore.

Our fixation on youth has reached new lows. Thanks to Brazilian waxes, everything is exposed and scrutinized. Back in the ’70s, liberated women used to squat over hand mirrors and have a look at their nether regions; these days they bring photos of porn stars to their plastic surgeons and say, “Make me look like this.”

“Vaginal rejuvenation” is now a fixture on the Web (I was looking at hybrid cars). Vaginal plastic surgery is a fast-growing specialty. Labia too big, not symmetrical, or just not pretty? Thankfully, for $3,000 to $7,000, you can tweak them, plump them, or remake them (just be prepared to lie in bed with a bag of frozen peas on your crotch for several days after). You can also get a twofer called the “Toronto Trim,” which involves the reduction of the labia and slight unhooding of the clitoris. I can’t tell if this is about aesthetics or women fed up with partners who are unable to find it.

Then there is the “new virginity” treatment called hymenoplasty, in demand by some women in Islamic cultures for whom virginity is more precious than oil. American women of all faiths are now flocking to the procedure and giving their men something different from the usual DVD or cashmere sweater. I wonder, does the gift of hymen come with a renewed naivete and shyness? Is part of the game the woman’s pretending that it really is the first time? (Will she cry, like I did?)

G-spot enhancement is also taking off; apparently, you can expand and sensitize the area by injecting it with hyaluronic acid or collagen. The payoff? A constant state of arousal lasting between three and six months. Imagine the happy soccer moms not screaming at you in the parking lot for once.

Of course, if “pelvic relaxation” is your problem, there’s now laser surgery to tighten and reconstruct vaginal muscles — in other words, a “puss-lift.” If science has found a way to turn an outie belly button into an innie, why not relocate your genitals? Hell, why not just put them on your head?

With the country at war and global tension near the breaking point, it’s a great time to have your nipples enlarged, tattoo a new lipline, and fix those imperfect labia, damn it. The good news is, you can also hire a “mummysitter” — a woman who comes and cares for you after your procedures. She’ll heat up the Lean Cuisine, bring home the Sex and the City box set, and change the nasty gauze. Yes, you’ll be in extreme pain, but thanks to your enhanced G-spot, you’ll be grinning all the way!

– Marie Claire

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6 Surprising Ways to Flirt Monday, May 7 2012 


When it comes to flirting, I am pretty good in this department. It could be man, woman, old, young, or anyone I can be very charming. So for all of you who do not have a clue, see the tools of trade and practice. You never know how impressive you may be, just don’t over do…

6 Surprising Ways to Flirt
We know, this isn’t your first rodeo. But there’s more to flirting than making eye contact and occasionally licking your lips. We asked dating expert Fran Greene, LCSWR and author of The Flirting Bible for a few moves no man can resist.
By Lauren Panariello
Cosmopolitan June 2012

•Cop a Feel
Touching a guy you’re into is a major pro-flirt move—it subtly makes him think about where your hands could go later. The right move: casually touching his shoulder, arm, or knee when you’re talking.

•Keep Your Distance
A crowded bar or party gives you an excuse to get extra close to a hot guy, but getting too close is a serious rookie move. Greene advises not standing closer than an arm’s length to him: “When people are that close to us, our natural inclination is to move away.” In other words, let him come to you.

•Wear Something Worth Talking About
Catching his eye doesn’t have to involve cleavage. Show up to happy hour in your favorite team’s baseball cap, or wear an old college tee to the gym. Not only will it give him something to approach you about, but he’ll immediately know you’re a chill girl he could watch the game with. Score.

•Be a Copycat
If he leans in, lean in. If he takes a sip of his drink, take a sip of your drink. It may sound creepy, but Greene says mirroring a guy’s movements establishes a connection and leaves the subtle impression that you’re in sync. Of course don’t copy everything. He probably won’t find it sexy if you follow him to the men’s room and start peeing standing up.

•Listen Up
Don’t get all caught up in being witty. When you’re too busy plotting your next line, you’re not really listening to what he’s saying. Who knows, his next words might be “What’s your number?”

•It’s All in the Wrist
While you’re talking to him, push up your sleeves and play with your watch or bracelet, moving them slowly up and down your wrist. There’s something really sensual about that part of the body—and teasingly tugging on your jewelry makes him think about taking stuff off of you.

How to have Sex on the Beach… Thursday, May 3 2012 


How to have sex on the beach is about as much fun as sex in a pool. I can recall my first time with a one night fling while I had just moved to Panama City Beach. Of course there was drinking involved, beautiful night, and a very cute guy. We were at a bar on the beach and after some constant flirting, we decided to go for it on the beach. It was exciting and sandy. Of course everything was going well until the water came up, washed my skirt and shirt away. The beach security busted us mid way and have to say I was slightly embarrassed. We did accomplish our goal of sex on the beach and then some. But here are a few pointers for you sand in the cracks and sex on the beach….

Exactly How to Have Sex on the Beach
by Ariane Marder
Glamour June 2012

And no, I do not mean the unfortunately-named cocktail. I’m talking real-deal fornication in the sand.

The year was 2000, and I had fallen hard for my friend’s cousin (looking back, it was clearly the allure of vacation sex that had me so smitten, but whatever). We were at a New Year’s party at a beach house and I was wearing a floor-length black dress. After ringing in the new millennium, we decided to take a romantic stroll and well, we didn’t end going very far before planting ourselves in the sand and getting busy. I learned a few valuable lessons that night that I feel it’s my duty to share:

1. Time is of the essence.
Nighttime is obviously the easiest time due to the darkness factor and because there’s usually no one around. (It’s also the only time you can get away with being completely naked on most American shores.) But if you find yourself at the beach mid-day, all hot and bothered by something besides the sun, you have another option: Location scouting. Look for a stretch of sand that’s secluded (duh) and preferably only accessible by one entrance (so that you can see who is coming).

2. Sand is your vulva’s enemy (notice I didn’t say vagina?).
To avoid sand crotch, there are a few precautions you can take. Bring a giant towel or beach blanket that will fit the both of you comfortably. Or, better yet, make like a family with a baby and bring one of those portable beach cabanas that give you optimal coverage. (Your skin will thank you, too!)

3. Position yourself wisely.
Despite what the movies show, missionary is not ideal for beach sex. Say, for instance, in lieu of your best efforts to remain unseen, you are happened upon by peepers. His naked bum will be a dead giveaway that you are in a salacious act. Instead, I suggest spooning (and if you’re in a bathing suit, it’s easy to move your bottoms to the side). You could also sit on his lap facing him and wrap your legs around him. But be sure to drape a towel around your shoulders for privacy. And please watch out for crabs (the crustaceans, sillies)!

4. Make it count.
Once the logistics are out of the way, now comes the easy part: enjoying it. Having sex on the beach is wild and romantic. And, let’s be honest, it’s not something you can do on a daily basis. So take a moment to listen to the waves crashing on the shore, or if it’s night, look up at that beautiful starry sky.

5. Rinse (and repeat!).
OK, so chances are you’ll end up sandy (and a bit sticky). Here comes the best part: The water is only steps away. Head for a swim and wash away any sediment you may have picked up in the act. I assure you that the lapping waves and salty ocean make for a one-of-a-kind post-coital snuggle.

Raise your hand if you can’t wait for summer!

Photo: Thinkstock

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My life Monday, Apr 30 2012 


So its been a while, well a long time since I’ve been here. So much has happened and changed in my life since October. I had serious health issues but glad to say I’m feeling 100 times better with my back injury. I’m still recovering but at least I’m not in the pain as I once was. I have to thank my family and friends for the support they have given me this last year. I couldn’t have made it without them. I had 2 back surgeries with some complications which required me to stay in the hospital for over 7 weeks. I am still recovering but I am not one with patience and tend to over do it at times but hopefully I will be 100% soon. As for my relationship, it has been a struggle of insecurities, fights, and hurt. When you are with someone for over 7 years you try to ignore the signs that are telling you that you deserve better. I loved this man and gave all that I could but I have my faults and pushed him away because of certain choices and decisions he made without my consent. So you live comfortable and have someone there with you because you don’t want to be alone. Years go by and things don’t change they spiral out of control to the point that both of us are so unhappy that we cannot be happy together and you start living these separate lives but pretend to everyone else that all is good. It will be hard to say goodbye, separate your belongings, who gets what and how do you decide you will take our 3 dogs who we loved like our own children, dividing the family unit. I have always thought break ups have sucked even my divorce was my biggest heartbreak. But this is different because he will still be there in the circle of friends and places that we go too. I want more in life, I want security and know I have a security for my future. I’m not young anymore I have to make decisions that will be in my best interest. Sometimes that means letting go of a man who is not in the same place in life as you are. It breaks my heart to know I’m hurting someone so much but I’m hurting as well. How will I feel when I see him with another person. I don’t think I will handle that well but maybe I was meant to find someone who will love me for me and be there when I need them to hold me when I can’t anymore. I want to be free but then I don’t want to let go. It sucks I sound like this person who wants their cake and eat it too. But in reality all I ever wanted was for this man to see what I wanted was security and then I could take those wall downs and love him again. Maybe too much time has past and we will be able to rebuild what we once has together. So I will focus on me and try to do what’s in my best interest. I know I can do this, the fact of starting all over again at 40 is the crap part of this for me. I thought when I was married I wouldn’t even thought I’d be doing this again for the third time now. Life is never what it seems to be when you’re young. I guess that’s why we are always learning and growing with life’s curve balls. My quote of the day is: “Sometimes you need to go through the pain to experience the joy!” hopefully I will experience the joy real soon!
Thank you,
Nola Girl Social!

Life Quote…very inspiring Friday, Sep 30 2011 


Maybe I need to start listening to these inspiring quotes…

You don’t really need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.

~The Notebook of Love
The Notebook

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