Life Quote Wednesday, May 23 2012 


This is a quote that means a lot to me. There are times in my past that if someone in my life would upset me or do something that would begin a flow of emotions (mostly anger), it would be very difficult to let it go. So instead of forgiving the person I would react in a defensive character or retaliate to their level. My parents have always told me, if someone is gossiping about you or being difficult to deal with, that it’s better to let it go. Because in the end you will come out as a genuine person and they will not amount to the person that my parents have taught myself and brothers to be in life. It’s hard to not hold a grudge but, its a lot easier to take the high road and feel better about yourself and hope that the other party will see their mistakes that they have made down the road. My parents instilled values and morals in us as children. I think in today’s world that parents are missing those same attributes to give their children. We grow up hating this and disliking that, because of what we learn from our peers. We forget that at a young age younger people are at an impressionable age, we forget that the bigger picture isn’t that you didn’t stand your ground but you became a stronger individual. I can recall periods in my life that I would fight tooth and nail to make good on my hurt feelings, but in reality it was making me weak and decided it was best to let it go. It never solves anything, be nice, forgive and try to forget. MayThis is my mantra for today…

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Fun in the Sun, maybe… Tuesday, May 22 2012 


Well, it’s Memorial Day Weekend coming up, which means its beach time. I love the beach, it’s one of the things that I miss the most living in Florida. I had my car always prepared in case I wanted some relaxation for a few hours on the beach. Now, being that I’m not quite ready for my body to be in a cute bathing suit or have my tan on, I will make the most of it by saying F it. I made my appointment to get my spray tan (trust me my days in the tanning beds are long done) and will then shop for a bathing suit that won’t make me throw up when I see it on myself. This of course is the reason I need the spray tan first, because a tan body looks better than a white fat body.
I am on the right track as far as trying to slim down, gave up the fast food, no sodas, and allowing a skim latte 3 times a week. I’ve been bringing my lunch to work and counting my calories, my clothes are fitting better but, still not noticing a difference on the scale. My doctors appointment yesterday really pissed me off, because as you know I had several surgeries on my back late last year. As of the last few weeks I’ve been experiencing some of the pain and spasms in my back like before, so for my doctor just to give me a few prescriptions of pain pills and suggest working out isn’t an option just of yet. So hello gallon of water I’ll be drinking everyday. And I will be on the beach, I may not be my slim self yet but as long as my boobs look good, have a pretty tan, and a drink in my hand I will be happy! So, forget what everybody is thinking, if they are making me of you part if their thoughts it’s better than not being thought of as well. Tired of the over critical thoughts and opinions a person has to say about another even when they don’t know the obstacles they have had to overcome just to get to the “beach”. Hell, a year ago I was bedridden and miserable in pain, I couldn’t even walk from my car to the front door of my apartment. If this is just a minor setback I’m okay with this but refuse to let this interfere with my life again. I want to celebrate my summer on the beach, have a hell of a 41st birthday party, and to find a way to suck the fat out of me without crying!
For those going out of town this weekend, be careful but have fun in the sun!
xoxo

Karen Walker Quotes Monday, May 21 2012 


Love this woman…

Karen:Honey, youre simple, youre shallow, and youre a common whore, thats why were soul mates!
Jack:Kare, youre my best friend in the whole world!

~Karen Walker
Will & Grace

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10 Ways to Get Over an Ex Thursday, May 17 2012 


As I’m reading the daily version of my bible a.k.a. Cosmopolitan, I found this article to be interesting. Trust me we all have our way of dealing with a breakup. You go through all these different types of emotions: sadness (crying and listening to some song that is as depressing as one could get), anger (the I hate you or you’re a loser voicemails), depression (you realize you probably screwed up the from your drunken, sad ridiculous message to the ex), the jealousy show (you know the moment you see the ex you make sure you look gorgeous and jump the first guy catches your eye and start the jealousy show-laughing and touching his arm or butt, to show the ex you have better than him, and lastly the stalker phase (you are stalking this person on facebook, twitter, 4square. Any movement on this ex, you know about it). I know when my ex-husband divorced me a year later I got a dog because he never wanted one and redecorated my house the way I wanted (all at which I charged on his credit card, it was the least I could do to thank him for walking out on a 12 year relationship).
Whatever it maybe we all have our different coping methods for a breakup. Here are a few ways to move on and find that Mr. Right…

10 Ways to Get Over an Ex

Facebook stalking, endless shots, and sleeping with the bartender will only make you feel worse (okay, maybe not the third one). Here’s how to get over an ex instead.
By Anna Davies
Cosmopolitan June 2012

•Be Sad… for a Little While
Having an “emotional flu” helps you get it all out, fast, says Sandra Ann Miller, co-author of A Sassy Little Guide to Getting Over Him. So sob, scream, listen to “Someone Like You” on infinite repeat, whatever you want. Just give yourself a time limit so you don’t wallow forever.

•Tweak Your Feed
The last thing you need is to see his status updates and tweets—even an innocent one about how much he loved his sandwich at lunch can remind you of “that time we ate a sandwich.” So if you don’t want to unfriend or unfollow him just yet (hey, it’s not easy to go cold turkey with his life), at least hide him from your news feed.

•Bitch It Out
Hit up your most supportive BFFs and have a no-holds barred venting session. Research reveals that putting feelings into words makes sadness and anger less intense. But do it over pedis or tapas—going on a total bender will only make you weepy—and likely to give into the temptation to text him at 3am.

•Do Something He Hated
Did Mr. Sensitive Tummy ban Indian restaurants from your Saturday nights? Order some vindaloo, extra spicy. Did he think all bungee jumpers have a death wish? Doing something that’s so “not him” is an easy way to bring you back to yourself, suggests Miller.

Change Your Space
It sounds New Age-y, but moving around your furniture literally gives you a fresh perspective, which kind of gives you the kick you need to move forward. At the very least, spring for new sheets—it’ll help get him off your mind now that he’s off your bed.

(Slightly) Make Over Your Look
A “breakover” shouldn’t mean going from mermaid-like locks to a super short pixie cut. You’re emotions are out of whack right now, so you might regret a drastic change later. But altering your look a little—by getting subtle highlights, or painting your nails a bold shade if you usually stick to neutrals—can make you feel refreshed, suggests Miller.

Don’t Sweat Him, Just Sweat
Sticking to a regular workout routine reduces stress and tires your body (which makes it virtually impossible to find yourself staring at the ceiling at 2 a.m., wondering WTF went wrong). Hit a new class with a friend, or sign up for a group run (many local running shops, and stores like Lululemon and Nike, offer these).

Pamper Yourself
According to research, the brain can’t tell the difference between emotional pain and physical pain, so by giving your bod some TLC, you’re also helping to soothe your mood, too. Now’s the time to cash in on that spa certificate from ages ago, or just go in for a quickie 10-minute massage at the nail place.

Challenge Yourself
Always wanted to learn to surf/speak French/play guitar? Miller says doing it now’s a great idea since it will give you something to focus on besides him. Even the tiniest challenge (like coming up with a new outfit combination every day) can have an impact.

Get Frisky
Okay, so you’re not ready to get back out there just yet. But that doesn’t mean you should quarantine your libido until further notice. Take a striptease aerobics class, finally download 50 Shades of Grey, or just flirt with the scruffy barista at the coffee shop. Just do something to keep your sexual energy burning—even if it is on low for now.

Friends – Quote Tuesday, Jun 21 2011 


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It haunts me! Up ’til now, the worst thing I ever saw was my father doing tequila shots off the naked house-boy. After this, I would gladly make that my screen saver.”

– Chandler in The One With The Birthing Video

Friends

Carrie Bradshaw – Quote Saturday, Jun 18 2011 


You can’t be friends with a squirrel! A squirrel is just a rat with a cuter outfit.
~ Carrie Bradshaw
Sex & the City

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