DO or DON’T? Photoshopping Your Ex Out of Pictures Thursday, Mar 21 2013 


I was recently reading my daily edition of Glamour when I came across this article regarding: Photoshopping Your Ex out of Pictures. I have to say I have contemplated this situation as I ended my previous relationship, going through old photos of holidays, birthdays, or special events. Many of which I look amazing and have fond memories except for the fact my ex is in many photos. Now, as I am trying to figure how I can save this picture of a great day (LSU TIGERS FOOTBALL NATIONAL CHAMPIONSHIP 2007). I decided to block out my ex face and put in LSU TIGERS mascot Mike the Tiger. Grant it, years ago I wouldn’t have thought about photoshop my old pictures of ex’s or what not. But, given the thought I look amazing why should I trash a special moment, all for the reason I cannot stand the sight of my biggest mistake/ex. You just make it work to your benefit!
What do you think…would you photoshop your ex from a picture?

DO or DON’T? Photoshopping Your Ex Out of Pictures

by Gena Kaufman
Glamour 3/15/2013

Some of us might just straight up destroy all evidence of a previous relationship, but for those who want to keep their memories without having their ex paraded in front of their faces, what do you think of this solution: Keep the photos, edit out the offending ex?

The Huffington Post recently pointed out a trend of Reddit users submitting their edited photos. First, a graphic designer who had been asked to photoshop a photo for a woman who wanted her ex-daughter-in-law removed from a family photo:

Ouch. Sorry, ex-wife.

Then, there was this post by a regular non-graphic-designer guy who took it upon himself to edit his own photo of himself with his ex-wife. His version is a bit more rough around the edges but also infinitely more hilarious:

Ouch, but…yum?

Would you guys ever go to such lengths to doctor a photo? Even though the idea of replacing all my exes with giant hot dogs (yes, there’s an intentional wiener joke in there) is pretty appealing for the hilarity, I can’t see myself ever seriously altering a picture. I can see why you wouldn’t want to sit around staring at your ex or your son’s ex, but…you can’t change history, you know? Everyone is still going to remember that the ex was there no matter how many delicious burritos you put in their place.

Source: Reddit

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Sex and the City Quotes Thursday, Mar 21 2013 


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“When you’re young, your whole life is about the pursuit of fun. Then, you grow up and learn to be cautious. You could break a bone or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes you don’t leap at all because there’s not always someone there to catch you. And in life, there’s no safety net. When did it stop being fun and start being scary?”

~Carrie Bradshaw
Sex and the City

Gossip Guys: It Turns Out Gossiping Might Be Essential For Bromance Thursday, May 24 2012 


As women, we always get the bad end of the stick when it comes to “gossip”. Men especially will throw their 2 cents in as they casually listen to our conversations with our girlfriends and comment on how catty or gossipy we are. But, in fact the whole roles gave been reversed. See, men are just as bad with the gossip. I can remember divulging a secret to my boyfriend about a friend of ours, which I made him swear to secrecy to not tell anyone about this problem. Well, what do you know I happen to overhear a conversation with my boyfriend and 2 other friends of his discussing the “secret”, I of course was infuriated by his actions. Or how bout when the guys get together and hang out they are talking smack about this girl or this guy, how their dressed or who they’re dating. Really, I guess boys will be boys, they gossip just as much as girls. So I found this article and thought it was interesting.

Gossip Guys: It Turns Out Gossiping Might Be Essential For Bromance

by Gena Kaufman
Glamour May 2012

Do you know any guys that are always like, “Ugh, you and your friends gossip sooo much!” but then he secretly listens and laughs, while simultaneously checking TMZ for the latest celebrity news? I do. All of them.

OK, I’m exaggerating, but the point is: everyone gossips. A new study of gossip and its effects on friendships in men and women, originally published in the journal Sex Roles, has revealed some expected and unexpected information. In unsurprising gender stereotypes that are actually true, women tend to gossip more than men. I’d roll my eyes but I’m such a big gossip that I can’t even pretend to deny I’m not totally guilty of being a gossip girl.

Here are some noteworthy gossip stats:

Women prefer to gossip about the physical appearance of others. Sigh. To be fair, it’s not necessarily all catty.

Women were more likely to be up on “social information gossip then men, i.e., who’s dating whom, who broke up, etc.

Men actually are the bigger gossips when it comes to “achievement related gossip” such as information about grades, salaries, and other status-related information.
Most surprisingly however, was the suggestion that gossip can actually strengthen male friendships. Apparently, gossip has a moderately strong effect on male friendships because amongst men, bonding is linked with more status. When a guy has more knowledge and control of information, he has more status. Women, on the other hand, characterize their friendships by communion or intimacy. Gossip doesn’t strengthen female friendships and might even be a threat to them.

Huh. Who knew that gossip, not crushing beer cans on their own foreheads, might be a bro bonding activity?

Are you a big gossip? Is your guy? Does it affect your friendships?

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How to Read His Beach Body Language Tuesday, May 22 2012 


I’m a big people watcher, especially at the beach. I mean it’s a classic form of entertainment watching complete strangers setting up camp, wondering “why in the hell would you choose to wear that article of clothing”, or the watching the group of hot boys not to far from you play in the sand.
I’ve always wondered what is he thinking as he’s all muscled out, walking with his friends, or with a girlfriend applying sunblock on her back. Well, if you’re interested check this out…

How to Read His Beach Body Language

Body language experts say that guys are way flirtier at the beach. (Hello, that’s what your slammin’ body on display does to a dude.) His actions can tell you a ton about his hook-up potential and availability, so here’s a guide to the sand and surf behavior that screams “I Want You.”
By Brittany Talarico
Cosmopolitan June 2012

•He Strolls the Beach With a Bouncy Step
If you spot a hottie walking back and forth near your chair or towel with some pep in his step, pay attention. “A lively stroll conveys confidence and interest,” says body language expert Lillian Glass, PhD. He’s showing himself off for you, and it’s an early clue that he wants you to notice him.

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•His Toes Are in the Sand…Pointed At You
“Even if his eyes and head are focused somewhere else, if his feet are directed your way and dig into the sand, he’s planted himself next to you to show interest,” explains Glass. Same goes for his upper body: If he positions his chest and shoulders at you, even if he’s looking at someone else, he’s still set his sights on you.

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•He Plays With
His Board Shorts
When a guy grabs at the clothing around his waist, he’s subconsciously trying to draw your attention to his package. So if you see him pulling at the drawstring on his trunks or fiddling with the waistband, steamy thoughts are most likely running through his head. Thing is, this can also be a sign that he’s immature—he’s thinking only about sex, not getting to know you, adds Glass.

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•He Stands Above You
“This is a power stance and he’s trying to dominate and show sexual attraction,” says Glass. Check how far apart his legs are too: If his stance is wide and his pelvis is facing you, then yowza—he’s really hot for you.

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•He Splashes Around Solo
Uh-oh, beware this beach behavior. “It’s a childish, immature move; he’s jumping around in the water to try to get your attention when he should be spending more time connecting face to face or inviting you in for a dip with him,” says Glass.

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•He Touches Your Bare Arm
Sure it’s hard for a guy to resist touching the sexy skin revealed by your bikini, but grazing your arm is a tip-off that he’s feeling a serious connection. Where he touches you tells you what he has in mind. “If he touches your shoulder, it indicates friendship,” says Glass. “Anywhere below that suggests he’s sexually attracted to you and very interested.”

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•He Takes Off His Sunglasses
He may as well just get down on one knee right along the shoreline. Kidding! But if a guy removes his sunnies and engages in direct eye contact while chatting with you, he’s displayng real interest and is looking for more than just a happy hour companion.

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Life Quote Friday, May 18 2012 


This is what I’m looking for in a man….

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6 Surprising Ways to Flirt Monday, May 7 2012 


When it comes to flirting, I am pretty good in this department. It could be man, woman, old, young, or anyone I can be very charming. So for all of you who do not have a clue, see the tools of trade and practice. You never know how impressive you may be, just don’t over do…

6 Surprising Ways to Flirt
We know, this isn’t your first rodeo. But there’s more to flirting than making eye contact and occasionally licking your lips. We asked dating expert Fran Greene, LCSWR and author of The Flirting Bible for a few moves no man can resist.
By Lauren Panariello
Cosmopolitan June 2012

•Cop a Feel
Touching a guy you’re into is a major pro-flirt move—it subtly makes him think about where your hands could go later. The right move: casually touching his shoulder, arm, or knee when you’re talking.

•Keep Your Distance
A crowded bar or party gives you an excuse to get extra close to a hot guy, but getting too close is a serious rookie move. Greene advises not standing closer than an arm’s length to him: “When people are that close to us, our natural inclination is to move away.” In other words, let him come to you.

•Wear Something Worth Talking About
Catching his eye doesn’t have to involve cleavage. Show up to happy hour in your favorite team’s baseball cap, or wear an old college tee to the gym. Not only will it give him something to approach you about, but he’ll immediately know you’re a chill girl he could watch the game with. Score.

•Be a Copycat
If he leans in, lean in. If he takes a sip of his drink, take a sip of your drink. It may sound creepy, but Greene says mirroring a guy’s movements establishes a connection and leaves the subtle impression that you’re in sync. Of course don’t copy everything. He probably won’t find it sexy if you follow him to the men’s room and start peeing standing up.

•Listen Up
Don’t get all caught up in being witty. When you’re too busy plotting your next line, you’re not really listening to what he’s saying. Who knows, his next words might be “What’s your number?”

•It’s All in the Wrist
While you’re talking to him, push up your sleeves and play with your watch or bracelet, moving them slowly up and down your wrist. There’s something really sensual about that part of the body—and teasingly tugging on your jewelry makes him think about taking stuff off of you.

Dude’s List: 11 Lies Women Tell Men Friday, Sep 30 2011 


So, I found this website and I kinda like this guy! Ladies, here is a list of 11 Lies Women Tell Men. I have to be honest I may have said one or two of these. I mean sometimes just like women, men can’t handle the truth, just saying…

Dude’s List: 11 Lies Women Tell Men

By The Dude •

Alright, this one’s going to piss off some, make others chuckle, and probably piss off some more. But bottom line, no one’s 100% honest all of the time and there’s no question we boys have made an omission or two with you…but then you most certainly have with us, too! Here’s a Dude’s List dose of the tall tales we’ve been told by you ladies. Take a look in the mirror…

“You’re the biggest I’ve ever had”
I don’t blame any woman for ever saying this to a man because we beg you to tell us this lie. We need this lie. We poke and prod until you tell us we’re big enough. Call it an emotional hand job. And it’s appreciated. And hopefully he’ll return the favor (with whatever the equivalent is. What is the female equivalent?)

“It was…great, really.”
Again, we’re asking for it. We’re not all sexual dynamos. Or competent. Some of us suck in the sack. Maybe it’s a lack of chemistry or we came too soon, but sometimes we screw up the screwing. And we generally know it. I mean, we have an instinct that we didn’t do it…right (there are some obvious signs and some we choose to be oblivious of). I mean, what are you going to tell us when we’re still naked and sweating? Most polite answer, really. And it’s appreciated. Of course, sometimes this lie is followed by: “I’ve got to go. I’ll call you.”

“I’ll call you.”
We’re not the only ones who use it! Way better than an outright rejection, right? Let them down gently? Tsk, tsk, tsk. We all should practice the Golden Rule a bit more. Of course, this isn’t the only way to blow a guy off…or cover something up.

“I’ve got a friend coming in this weekend.”
You’re cheating on him or just seeing another guy. Or just want to avoid him entirely. I’ve gotten this one. I think every guy I know’s gotten this one and every woman I know has used some form of it. Believe it or not, we’d rather just get the rejection upfront.

“I never drink this much.”
Usually said while drunk. But come on, no one wants to admit they’re an alcoholic the first time they meet someone. That’s not sexy. Duh.

“I’m pregnant.”
I know someone this happened to. She told someone she was pregnant. He found out. Then when he confronted her, she revealed she wasn’t. It’s been used, therefore it is valid on this list

“I’ve never done this before.”
Your pants are on fire.

“I’ve only had sex with, like, 2 guys. Swears.”
In the beginning, we all tend to do some spacey-wacey maneuvering when it comes to the list. There’s the joke that men make their numbers bigger and women make theirs smaller. Of course, if it’s true then is it still a joke?

“I like Chuck and the Wu Tang Clan, too!”
No you don’t. You don’t like anything we do and you pretend that you do. We give the same line to you about other things. I mean, we have to get along somehow, right? But just to warn you, when we find out the truth, that you hate everything we love, it only stirs the awkward sauce.

“Everything’s fine.”
When everything’s fine, no one actually needs to say it.

“I’m a terrible liar.”
No, we just want to believe you so badly it doesn’t matter how good of a liar you are. Especially when it comes to the sex stuff.

There you have it, ladies. 11 lies that all of you combined might have used at some point. Again, we certainly ask you to tell some of them to us. Others…So my big question to you is: how many have you used? It’s okay, I won’t tell. Oh! Another question, which ones have you told that I didn’t list? Come on, don’t hog all the fun.

We’re gonna need a longer list,

The Dude
Collegecandy.com

5 Lies Men Tell Women… Thursday, Sep 15 2011 


So, I am finally catching up on my reading material i.e. my fashion magazines. And came upon this interesting article, personally all men lie but you just need to learn how to read between the lines or the lies. See what you think……

 

 Glamour.com

The folks over at College Candy have put together a helpful little list of The 11 Lies Women Tell Men. I thought it might only be fair, and even a little helpful if I shared the lies men tell women. If you want to know the truth, keep reading, but also keep in mind that I just admitted that I could be a total liar.

“Spankme.com isn’t my homepage. I don’t even watch porn! Someone must have put that there as a joke.”
OK, the homepage thing really may have been a joke, but seriously, he probably watches porn.

“I’m just not hungry.”
Are you kidding me? Men can always eat. We are the opposite of hibernating bears. The reason he’s not eating is either because what you made is gross, or he’s mad at you, or something is bothering him.

“I have no idea how many women I’ve slept with; I don’t count”

Bullsh*t. He knows exactly how many and if he doesn’t it’s because his memory is bad, in which case he probably wrote it down somewhere.”

“I forgot that OK Cupid account even existed.”
He probably checks it from work, that tricky bugger. It’s pathetic, but doesn’t mean he’s a cheater; maybe he just needs the ego boost. If it’s still up a week after you busted him, he’s either an idiot or a jerk.

“That’s never happened before.”

I mean, there has to be a first time for everything, so logically, at some point, that statement would have been true. Just doubtful that this was that time. Whatever. He’s embarrassed. Just shake it off and say “no big deal.” That’s the nicest thing you can do.

Did I miss any? What lies have you suspected guys of telling you? And have you ever lied to them about anything?

Photo: Thinkstock

8 Fascinating Facts About Women and Relationships Wednesday, Aug 3 2011 


I just read this article and some of it agree with, I mean there is no such thing as to the “perfect guy”. So I guess we have take the good with bad. But I’d prefer to have any of the guys that are in my Top 5 list ( if you’re thinking what on earth is my Top 5 list, its my freebie, if I had a chance in hell having: my top 5 men I could have if I had the chance ) What do you think…

We got 13,000 women reveal their thoughts on relationships, work, Facebook behavior, money and sex.

The jury is out for women when it comes to who pays on a date:
33% of you expect the guy to pay for most dates, but a significant number of you ( 38%) feel it should be 50-50—he should pay half of the time, and you’ll pay half the time.

“The Rules, According to Facebook” aren’t yet established:
38% of you are fine with your boyfriend/husband friending an ex on FB, but another 27% say it’s okay only if you’ve met the ex before. And 34% say it’s not okay with you for your guy to friend an ex at all.

Online dating has lost its negative stigma.
31% of you have met a guy online and of those, 12% have gone on to have a relationship. And 22% of you say you definitely wouldn’t rule out the internet as a way of meeting guys.

Could it be the economy?
A sizable majority of you—73%—are perfectly comfortable if your guy makes less than you do. And 12% of respondents are already in a relationship where you make more money than your guy. But there are still the traditionalists: 25% of you feel that the ultimate status symbol is a successful husband or boyfriend. And “being dominated” ranks as your top sexual fantasy—35% say it’s the sexual act you most often fantasize about.

But you’re getting a little sick of the Man-Child.
When you were asked what you’d change about your guy, 11% had issues with your guy’s laziness and lack of ambition.

And if you’re making the money, he can pick up the slack…
53% of you would want your guy to take a male birth control pill if one existed. [And the good news is, researchers are currently testing a four-times-a-year birth control pill for guys that kills sperm before one reaches an egg. While we don’t think it’ll be in drugstores anytime soon, we’ll keep you posted on the progress.]

You’re forgiving of your honeys:
Only 20% of you would dump a boyfriend if he got fat, and only 18% of you want your guy’s penis to be bigger.

But that doesn’t mean your guys don’t have to watch out.
26% of you have, at one time or another, fantasized about your boyfriend or husband’s friends. As for full-on cheating, 12% of you would be tempted to cheat, as long as there was no way of your guy finding out. And many of you—13%—know someone who has actually set up a secret Facebook account to conceal a relationship from your S.O. Another 13% of you know someone who has used the internet to cheat, through a service such as AshleyMadison.com.

And that’s not all you lie about:
35% of you have lied about the number of sex partners you’ve had, and 54% of you have faked an O. But 85% of you would be offended if your guy faked an orgasm with you—we think that’s known as a double standard, ladies!

Cosmopolitan.com

My Life at ( just breathe and say it fast ) ) 40… Wednesday, Aug 3 2011 


Well, I was thinking about how today was the first time I said my age out loud when asked from the police officer who just pulled me over for a lame traffic violation. See, I just turned 40 years old literally 6 days ago and was slightly sad about this because I thought how did 40 run up and sucker punch me without some kind of warning! I know I’m a little dramatic. But, I have always been conscious about my appearance. No, it’s not that I am vain, but the opposite. In the last two years my weight has yo-yo up and down and is definitely not where I want for it to be ( maybe a good 30lbs to be slightly happier ) so when I leave for work or a function, I make sure I always look presentable because you never, ever know who you will run into! Trust me, you will run into someone you are least expected to see at anytime of the day. I have ventured out my house several times and could kick myself for doing this. But I think it’s just for a quick stop here or there and with no make-up, hair dirty ( pulled back with a headband ), and maybe not where the flattering of outfits. And I see how I look in the mirror, but I’m rushed to run a quick errand, I mean who is gonna see me, right? I think whatever and go. Wrong, of course, it is always at those rare occasions you run into an old boss, an ex-boyfriend, that cute guy or girl you have been crushing or maybe that one evil person ( its alway a girl trust me ) that just always gets under your skin, that spots you from afar or maybe up close and I think to myself “what the hell is my problem leaving the house looking like some crack whore”. It never fails, so after my last appearance as a C.W. when I ran into a previous owner of employment, I decided never again will I attempt to walk out the door without at least looking good ( maybe a cute hat, a pair of sunglasses, and throw on a cute sundress ). So, what I’m trying say ladies take my advice, look in the mirror before you leave the house. Don’t think it won’t matter because it will.
The reason I’m saying this is, if my insecurity about my +30lbs is visible to others who have not seen me in a while, than I will make sure to focus on my other beautiful features to feel good about myself. And see, I won’t give a crap to whoever I may will run into, because I look good and feel good about myself.
Now, I said I just turned 40 last week. I never have been a stickler about my age like my mother is. When I was growing up, I was the short girl with the young looking face. I remember getting my first fake I.D. when I was 16 years old, I memorized every bit of information on that I.D. ( see growing up in Nola, the legal drinking age at that time was 18 years old, so faking it out at 16 years old didn’t seem to be a far fetch ) but at 16 I didn’t even look it. I had such a baby face, and didn’t pass for 18 or even 16 years old. Growing up, my mom and Aunts would all say “when you are older, you will appreciate your youthful appearance” . And they were right, whenever someone would ask my age I told them and I always would get the same reply that they thought I was so much younger. Now, I totally appreciate it, because I definitely look like a young 30 year old. I think in the last 10 years I have maintained the skincare regime: always moisturize my face, use the fine line serums, apply sunscreen, no fake and bake ( but I do spray tan or use a sunless tanner ) and wear my make-up in a fashionable way. I think the last time I was carded in the French Quarter for dinner a few months ago, the server asked for my I.D. I was so joyful and excited. So, take pride in your skincare regime early because girls, trust me later in life all the sun damage, going out, and stress will catch up to you and age you in a heartbeat.
On my birthday last week, I woke up went to the bathroom, showered, and washed my face. I must have looked in the mirror for a good ten minutes wondering how did I get so old. My pores are slightly larger, no fine lines or wrinkles, yet ( as I knock on wood ), I have a herniated disc, and I spot a single gray strand of hair. But, here I am and I am just going not stress about it, I thought to myself I am freaking 40 years old, where did all the time go too! I mean today I was actually excited when my period came, not because I thought I could be prego but for the thought I am grateful for another month that I am not going into “the pause” ( I mean menopause but renamed it ). You maybe laughing at the fact that I think this, but it will come on early I have a feeling that it will be Mother Natures way of stabbing me in the heart because the pause will happen and that is just another sure sign of aging so called gracefully! We as women have to suck it up and take pride in our appearances, not because we are vain but we are judged based on first impressions. I mean look at all we have to go through: going to the gym weekly, fake and bake or spray tan once a week ( if you want to have a nice glow, not Snookie glow ) get our hair fix either by cut or color every 6 weeks, manicures/pedicures ( weekly or biweekly ) teeth whitening, skincare ( facials or led light therapy ) and whatever else floats your boat to maintain a certain youthfulness. The public eyes you up and down and has place judgement on you based on your initial meet, not even having a clue as what my intellect or interest might be. I too, have been guilty of this crime but now I have learned that I or any person has a lot to offer besides being judged on our looks. I know what you’re thinking it’s a double end sword, you’re damned if you or damned if you don’t. We have to basically market ourselves just to keep up with all the other women and men in the world. Now, some of you may have natural beauty and feel like you don’t have to participate in all that the plain janes of the world have to go through to look and play the part. I applaud you and jealous all at the same time. Not because I’m jealous of their natural beauty but it is that they don’t have to work at it as hard as I do to maintain certain appearances.
So, I guess that’s all and a big thank you to all the skincare, body, and haircare products being advertised or marketed in my head for making me, me! After all my mom doesn’t look a day over 50 and she is, so I guess I am thankful that I inherited her youthful genes. Thanks, Mom!