As I’m reading the daily version of my bible a.k.a. Cosmopolitan, I found this article to be interesting. Trust me we all have our way of dealing with a breakup. You go through all these different types of emotions: sadness (crying and listening to some song that is as depressing as one could get), anger (the I hate you or you’re a loser voicemails), depression (you realize you probably screwed up the from your drunken, sad ridiculous message to the ex), the jealousy show (you know the moment you see the ex you make sure you look gorgeous and jump the first guy catches your eye and start the jealousy show-laughing and touching his arm or butt, to show the ex you have better than him, and lastly the stalker phase (you are stalking this person on facebook, twitter, 4square. Any movement on this ex, you know about it). I know when my ex-husband divorced me a year later I got a dog because he never wanted one and redecorated my house the way I wanted (all at which I charged on his credit card, it was the least I could do to thank him for walking out on a 12 year relationship).
Whatever it maybe we all have our different coping methods for a breakup. Here are a few ways to move on and find that Mr. Right…

10 Ways to Get Over an Ex

Facebook stalking, endless shots, and sleeping with the bartender will only make you feel worse (okay, maybe not the third one). Here’s how to get over an ex instead.
By Anna Davies
Cosmopolitan June 2012

•Be Sad… for a Little While
Having an “emotional flu” helps you get it all out, fast, says Sandra Ann Miller, co-author of A Sassy Little Guide to Getting Over Him. So sob, scream, listen to “Someone Like You” on infinite repeat, whatever you want. Just give yourself a time limit so you don’t wallow forever.

•Tweak Your Feed
The last thing you need is to see his status updates and tweets—even an innocent one about how much he loved his sandwich at lunch can remind you of “that time we ate a sandwich.” So if you don’t want to unfriend or unfollow him just yet (hey, it’s not easy to go cold turkey with his life), at least hide him from your news feed.

•Bitch It Out
Hit up your most supportive BFFs and have a no-holds barred venting session. Research reveals that putting feelings into words makes sadness and anger less intense. But do it over pedis or tapas—going on a total bender will only make you weepy—and likely to give into the temptation to text him at 3am.

•Do Something He Hated
Did Mr. Sensitive Tummy ban Indian restaurants from your Saturday nights? Order some vindaloo, extra spicy. Did he think all bungee jumpers have a death wish? Doing something that’s so “not him” is an easy way to bring you back to yourself, suggests Miller.

Change Your Space
It sounds New Age-y, but moving around your furniture literally gives you a fresh perspective, which kind of gives you the kick you need to move forward. At the very least, spring for new sheets—it’ll help get him off your mind now that he’s off your bed.

(Slightly) Make Over Your Look
A “breakover” shouldn’t mean going from mermaid-like locks to a super short pixie cut. You’re emotions are out of whack right now, so you might regret a drastic change later. But altering your look a little—by getting subtle highlights, or painting your nails a bold shade if you usually stick to neutrals—can make you feel refreshed, suggests Miller.

Don’t Sweat Him, Just Sweat
Sticking to a regular workout routine reduces stress and tires your body (which makes it virtually impossible to find yourself staring at the ceiling at 2 a.m., wondering WTF went wrong). Hit a new class with a friend, or sign up for a group run (many local running shops, and stores like Lululemon and Nike, offer these).

Pamper Yourself
According to research, the brain can’t tell the difference between emotional pain and physical pain, so by giving your bod some TLC, you’re also helping to soothe your mood, too. Now’s the time to cash in on that spa certificate from ages ago, or just go in for a quickie 10-minute massage at the nail place.

Challenge Yourself
Always wanted to learn to surf/speak French/play guitar? Miller says doing it now’s a great idea since it will give you something to focus on besides him. Even the tiniest challenge (like coming up with a new outfit combination every day) can have an impact.

Get Frisky
Okay, so you’re not ready to get back out there just yet. But that doesn’t mean you should quarantine your libido until further notice. Take a striptease aerobics class, finally download 50 Shades of Grey, or just flirt with the scruffy barista at the coffee shop. Just do something to keep your sexual energy burning—even if it is on low for now.

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